https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/ Guitar Noise Discussion Board en-US Thu, 04 Jun 2026 01:48:47 +0000 wpForo 60 https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-368617 Thu, 11 Aug 2011 22:04:06 +0000

I am pretty happy where I am and I love playing, it fills me with joy every time.

I have had some lovely compliments from people, especially on guitar noise and some horrible comments from other walks of life (never guitar noise). I even did one jam with dogbite which I thought was sloppy and horrible, so I sent it to him because I could not be bothered re-recording it - he thought it was amazing. Didn't get that LOL!!! Ended up being "my dog has fleas" and it was all out of sync but he said he didn't notice (that's how bad the playing was).

Normally though I am really happy with my playing but I am a live performer essentially, I never spend enough time planning my solos which is my weakness I guess.]]> Opinions and Polls fleaaaaaa https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-368617 https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367905 Tue, 12 Jul 2011 16:44:25 +0000 Opinions and Polls Rahul https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367905 https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367560 Fri, 24 Jun 2011 23:14:01 +0000
Being a sore loser is bad, but having the drive to compete and improve is surely what it is all about?

It only becomes a bad thing for some people because they get bitter when they arent the best, while the rest of us with our heads screwed on know that there will always be somebody better :D]]> Opinions and Polls almann1979 https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367560 https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367530 Thu, 23 Jun 2011 23:13:45 +0000 Opinions and Polls Liontable https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367530 https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367518 Thu, 23 Jun 2011 08:28:06 +0000
In the P90X workouts, they are tough, they are strenuous they are long...but when things are going to get tough, the lead guy there, Tony Horton, always says, "Don't Try to BE a Hero", pace your self, take your time, the physical exertion can lead to injury, like the mental exertion on the guitar can lead to injury in your playing and mental health. Just do your best, forget the rest. Your best is ALWAYS good enough, and your best will ALWAYS get better.

There are people on Youtube I watch and say...why bother...but then realize, I'm not trying to get famous, I just want to play music!

Good luck!!]]> Opinions and Polls JoeHempel https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367518 https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367331 Fri, 17 Jun 2011 19:12:00 +0000
I was reminded of something else due to your post. Jealousies can injure friendships and families. I believe it spawns negative thought patterns which come to service as spoken word in the form of anything from snide comments to talking behind others' backs in a bad manner.

In turn, when in a cruel mood, I used to play off successes as nothing or seemingly effortless to those who where driven by jealousy or at least comparision. I did it just to watch people eat themselves up from the inside-out. I guess lots of folks have a mean streak deep inside them somewhere. :mrgreen:]]> Opinions and Polls rparker https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367331 https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367321 Fri, 17 Jun 2011 11:45:33 +0000
I was quite interested in the OP's point about him not minding people being a lot better than him, but if they are only a little better then it drives him crazy.

I play football (soccer) in my home town, and I have a good(?) friend how definitely seems jealous that I'm better than him. Yet although I'm decent, I'm certainly not the best player there, so why wouldn't he be jealous of them, instead of me? I think its because he sees me as being similar to him - age, build, agility etc and it drives him crazy that I can do things that he can't. I also suspect that he's jealous of my music, and again I'm not brilliant at that, just ok..... its becoming annoying enough that I'm reconsidering the friendship, which is a shame, as most off the time he's a decent enough friend to have.

This is my first post on the forum which I read quite a lot, congratulations on making it so good. Cheers.]]> Opinions and Polls wordy76 https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367321 https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367296 Wed, 15 Jun 2011 23:59:48 +0000
Something I have observed in dealing with a family member who suffers from depression.
She sets impossibly high standards for herself and others.
Perfection is the only acceptable outcome. Anything less is a sign of personal weakness and failure.
Of course, it is impossible for any human to achieve that, so she is constantly disappointed in herself (and others).
Which deepens her depression.
Set new (impossible) goals, and repeat...

A couple of years ago it led to the brink of suicide, and a 2 month hospitalization in a psyc ward.

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Try to be realistic in your goals. Striving to be better than you are now is a good thing.
Trying to be better than "the best that ever was" is just setting yourself up for disappointment, and not good for your mental health.
Most people are very good at one, maybe 2 things.
No person was ever "the best" at everything they tried. No matter how hard they work at it.]]> Opinions and Polls kent_eh https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367296 https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367237 Mon, 13 Jun 2011 17:33:39 +0000 Opinions and Polls cnev https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367237 https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367235 Mon, 13 Jun 2011 17:16:32 +0000
Another thing to think about is that any energy put into jealousy is taken away from the energy required to improve yourself, learn and even takes away your ability to just relax and soak in what could be a nice moment. There may be times when competetion is required, but if you focused on yourself when you had to, you'll be better suited to compete when that time comes.

A good thing one can take from others is to help in goal setting. It takes an additional step. You have to know what the items are that you don't know. In other words, you have to answer the "what do I need to learn in order to play in that style or with that much technical ability?" question. Not always easy.

There is a book written by a golf instructor that is no longer with us. He writes of how one of his students was gushing with confidence right before a match-play thing. He said that he was going to win easily because the other golfer had poor form in his swing and his own was so good that there was no way he could lose. Well, he lost. The instructor told his student that the other guy won because he had gotten to the same level with his poor form, and it was because he had to work harder to perfect his poor form to get the same results, and that caused him to become more in-tune to his own swing than most golfers.

He also said that he would have students show him their imitations of other famous golfers. His students would try to imitate golfers of fame that you could tell who they were 300 yards away because of their swing. To him, though, they always looked like the same swing that they had before trying to imitate. They had the same bad habits, good habits and tendencies in the imitation swings that they had in their own.

I guess my point is probably a rehash of others' who've responded already, but I do love to ramble. :D :D]]> Opinions and Polls rparker https://guitarnoise.forum/opinions-and-polls/jealousy/#post-367235